And sports were a prominent discussion point in my date with TG. We had originally talked about meeting for lunch, but Isaac's soccer game was scheduled for lunch time, so that is how we ended up with an early dinner.
He was like "So what other sports does your son do?"
Me: Just soccer.
TG: Really?
Me: Yeah, spring and fall.
TG: Really? He doesn't do baseball or anything?
Me: No, not right now. Just soccer. He's only five.
TG: Oh, that's kind of weird.
Me: Well, his dad is really into soccer and wants him to play. And he loves it. But if he ever asked to play another sport, I would sign him up. (I decide to not mention his brief endeavor into the world of gymnastics, something told me it might not be well recieved)
Later...
TG: So have you grown up in this area your whole life?
Me: Yeah, pretty much.
TG: So you a Phillies fan?
Me: (racking brain, vaguely recall something about Phillies recently winning the World Series): uh... not really?
TG: What?!
I then realize he thinks I would rather root for another team than the Phillies.... I try to politely explain to him that I just don't care about any baseball team. At all.
TG: So you would never go to a baseball game?
Me: Well... I have... But I could name about twenty other things I would rather do than go to a baseball game.
TG: What about the Flyers? You a Flyers fan?
Me: Uh... Well... I mean... I would rather go to a hockey game than a baseball game.
TG: Have you ever been to a Flyers game?
Me: Yes! I don't mind watching Hockey. And when I was in Pittsburgh I went to a few Pens games. We got a student discount.
TG: Do you like football?
Me: No...
TG: Have you ever been to an Eagles game?
Me: No.
And I can see my stock plummeting as he realizes I will never be the girl sitting next to him cheering on the Eagles or passionately following Phillies games.
Why do I keep getting paired up with these sports fanatics? How can I get matched, with, like a hipster who isn't going to be horrified that I don't understand a thing about football? How important is it that you share interests like sports with your significant other? Does it have to be a dealbreaker (like PDH)? Is there room for compromise (I'm thinking of my college boyfriend and I who would literally have two tvs next to each other in his living room, one playing baseball and one playing Trading Spaces)?
Feel free to comment.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
My name is Lisa and I am not an Eagles fan...
Blah.
So I had another e-harmony date yesterday.
I was a little nervous. PDH e-mailed and chatted online several times a day for nearly a month before we met up in person, so I felt like I already knew him pretty well. Tech Guy (TG) and I had e-mailed twice and texted a little bit. We agreed to meet up for a quick dinner around 4:00 with the understanding that he was meeting friends at 6:30 to go to Atlantic City. (Definite ending times for dates are critical in these situations). The date itself was fine. He was a nice guy and looked like he did in his pictures (cute). I would go out again if he asked. But if he didn't ask, that would be fine too.
But this blog isn't intended to be a report on the date. It is just to ponder the question of where do I find a guy who isn't totally obsessed with sports?
PDH was obsessed and I mean obsessed with football (college and NFL) and hockey. He kept up with multiple fantasy leagues, drove up to State College often for football games, etc. As silly as it sounds, it did kind of put a strain on our relationship, because it was something he was so passionate about and something I have absolutely no interest in at all, and very little tolerance for. For him, certain games were critical life changing events, which was something I really couldn't understand or relate to.
As a gag, this was one of the Christmas presents he got me:
And sports were a prominent discussion point in my date with TG. We had originally talked about meeting for lunch, but Isaac's soccer game was scheduled for lunch time, so that is how we ended up with an early dinner.
He was like "So what other sports does your son do?"
Me: Just soccer.
TG: Really?
Me: Yeah, spring and fall.
TG: Really? He doesn't do baseball or anything?
Me: No, not right now. Just soccer. He's only five.
TG: Oh, that's kind of weird.
Me: Well, his dad is really into soccer and wants him to play. And he loves it. But if he ever asked to play another sport, I would sign him up. (I decide to not mention his brief endeavor into the world of gymnastics, something told me it might not be well recieved)
Later...
TG: So have you grown up in this area your whole life?
Me: Yeah, pretty much.
TG: So you a Phillies fan?
Me: (racking brain, vaguely recall something about Phillies recently winning the World Series): uh... not really?
TG: What?!
I then realize he thinks I would rather root for another team than the Phillies.... I try to politely explain to him that I just don't care about any baseball team. At all.
TG: So you would never go to a baseball game?
Me: Well... I have... But I could name about twenty other things I would rather do than go to a baseball game.
TG: What about the Flyers? You a Flyers fan?
Me: Uh... Well... I mean... I would rather go to a hockey game than a baseball game.
TG: Have you ever been to a Flyers game?
Me: Yes! I don't mind watching Hockey. And when I was in Pittsburgh I went to a few Pens games. We got a student discount.
TG: Do you like football?
Me: No...
TG: Have you ever been to an Eagles game?
Me: No.
And I can see my stock plummeting as he realizes I will never be the girl sitting next to him cheering on the Eagles or passionately following Phillies games.
Why do I keep getting paired up with these sports fanatics? How can I get matched, with, like a hipster who isn't going to be horrified that I don't understand a thing about football? How important is it that you share interests like sports with your significant other? Does it have to be a dealbreaker (like PDH)? Is there room for compromise (I'm thinking of my college boyfriend and I who would literally have two tvs next to each other in his living room, one playing baseball and one playing Trading Spaces)?
Feel free to comment.
And sports were a prominent discussion point in my date with TG. We had originally talked about meeting for lunch, but Isaac's soccer game was scheduled for lunch time, so that is how we ended up with an early dinner.
He was like "So what other sports does your son do?"
Me: Just soccer.
TG: Really?
Me: Yeah, spring and fall.
TG: Really? He doesn't do baseball or anything?
Me: No, not right now. Just soccer. He's only five.
TG: Oh, that's kind of weird.
Me: Well, his dad is really into soccer and wants him to play. And he loves it. But if he ever asked to play another sport, I would sign him up. (I decide to not mention his brief endeavor into the world of gymnastics, something told me it might not be well recieved)
Later...
TG: So have you grown up in this area your whole life?
Me: Yeah, pretty much.
TG: So you a Phillies fan?
Me: (racking brain, vaguely recall something about Phillies recently winning the World Series): uh... not really?
TG: What?!
I then realize he thinks I would rather root for another team than the Phillies.... I try to politely explain to him that I just don't care about any baseball team. At all.
TG: So you would never go to a baseball game?
Me: Well... I have... But I could name about twenty other things I would rather do than go to a baseball game.
TG: What about the Flyers? You a Flyers fan?
Me: Uh... Well... I mean... I would rather go to a hockey game than a baseball game.
TG: Have you ever been to a Flyers game?
Me: Yes! I don't mind watching Hockey. And when I was in Pittsburgh I went to a few Pens games. We got a student discount.
TG: Do you like football?
Me: No...
TG: Have you ever been to an Eagles game?
Me: No.
And I can see my stock plummeting as he realizes I will never be the girl sitting next to him cheering on the Eagles or passionately following Phillies games.
Why do I keep getting paired up with these sports fanatics? How can I get matched, with, like a hipster who isn't going to be horrified that I don't understand a thing about football? How important is it that you share interests like sports with your significant other? Does it have to be a dealbreaker (like PDH)? Is there room for compromise (I'm thinking of my college boyfriend and I who would literally have two tvs next to each other in his living room, one playing baseball and one playing Trading Spaces)?
Feel free to comment.
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5 comments:
the sports crazed man can be a royal pain in the ass. the 2 men you have talked about in this post are over the top. i can understand that someone wants similar interests or at the very least someone who is tolerant, but all those fantasy football leagues, etc is just too much. i think even a woman who liked sports would think so. mr e harmony sounded like he was judging you for only having your kid in 1 sport-that is CRAZY. if he sees you as less because you dont LOVE sports, he is not the guy for you. i have only been reading your blog for a little bit, but you strike me as the kind of person who wouldnt judge(well, you might now, based on your experiences)or automatically eliminate a sports fan just because you dont like sports. its sports. it shouldnt be a deal breaker. on the flip side, my ex husband was a huge football fan. during football season, all of sunday was sucked up with the pre game, the actual game(that could be played in an hour, except for all the inane commentary and commericals)that took hours, and then the freakin POST GAME crap. oh, how i hated it. we fought for years over it. then i just gave up. it was important to him. he loved it. one of the other things he liked about football, was for me to sit there with him. so i started grabbing books and magazines and i would sit there all day with him reading(or scrapbooking or something that i liked). all relationships involve compromise,but what you are describing is beyond crazy. there are men out there that either dont care for sports or know how to keep it in check. i feel your pain. :)
I am so not into guys like that. I just don't get it and while I like some sports I don't understand all of them nor do I care to. I seem to find the guys that are OVERLY into video games, which I hate even more than sports. I would rather a guy watch sports than play video games but I don't want a guy like PDH and TG either.
I don't know that it has to be a deal breaker, but it depends on how FANatical the guy really is, and how much you dislike talking/listening/watching sports. My MIL is not into sports at all, but the FIL is. Over the years she learned that if she lets him have his sports thing then he's okay with her having her girls nights and weekends, and is more supportive of the things she likes to try out.
However, if you can't stand sports and it makes you feel like your brain is being drilled and would rather be cleaning up dog poop than talking about it, then perhaps the sports freaks aren't for you. :)
Strange I play tons of video games and love sports yet you and I always get along just fine. A relationship is give and take. Nothing so far from what you explained about these two guys is a bad thing. They don't seem that crazy about it like other posters are hinting at. They just have something they are passionate about is all. That's not a bad thing. Only when it impedes your relationship or takes the place of Lisa on the hierarchy of important things is it a bad thing.
On a related note what if the guy was super into massively multiplayer online fight sport video games? That would be an excellent match for you!
This comment is short in comparison to the rest, but don't lose hope...the right guy is out there.
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