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So I had another e-harmony date yesterday.
I was a little nervous. PDH e-mailed and chatted online several times a day for nearly a month before we met up in person, so I felt like I already knew him pretty well. Tech Guy (TG) and I had e-mailed twice and texted a little bit. We agreed to meet up for a quick dinner around 4:00 with the understanding that he was meeting friends at 6:30 to go to Atlantic City. (Definite ending times for dates are critical in these situations). The date itself was fine. He was a nice guy and looked like he did in his pictures (cute). I would go out again if he asked. But if he didn't ask, that would be fine too.
But this blog isn't intended to be a report on the date. It is just to ponder the question of where do I find a guy who isn't totally obsessed with sports?
PDH was obsessed and I mean obsessed with football (college and NFL) and hockey. He kept up with multiple fantasy leagues, drove up to State College often for football games, etc. As silly as it sounds, it did kind of put a strain on our relationship, because it was something he was so passionate about and something I have absolutely no interest in at all, and very little tolerance for. For him, certain games were critical life changing events, which was something I really couldn't understand or relate to.
As a gag, this was one of the Christmas presents he got me:

And sports were a prominent discussion point in my date with TG. We had originally talked about meeting for lunch, but Isaac's soccer game was scheduled for lunch time, so that is how we ended up with an early dinner.
He was like "So what other sports does your son do?"
Me: Just soccer.
TG: Really?
Me: Yeah, spring and fall.
TG: Really? He doesn't do baseball or anything?
Me: No, not right now. Just soccer. He's only five.
TG: Oh, that's kind of weird.
Me: Well, his dad is really into soccer and wants him to play. And he loves it. But if he ever asked to play another sport, I would sign him up. (I decide to not mention his brief endeavor into the world of gymnastics, something told me it might not be well recieved)
Later...
TG: So have you grown up in this area your whole life?
Me: Yeah, pretty much.
TG: So you a Phillies fan?
Me: (racking brain, vaguely recall something about Phillies recently winning the World Series): uh... not really?
TG: What?!
I then realize he thinks I would rather root for another team than the Phillies.... I try to politely explain to him that I just don't care about any baseball team. At all.
TG: So you would never go to a baseball game?
Me: Well... I have... But I could name about twenty other things I would rather do than go to a baseball game.
TG: What about the Flyers? You a Flyers fan?
Me: Uh... Well... I mean... I would rather go to a hockey game than a baseball game.
TG: Have you ever been to a Flyers game?
Me: Yes! I don't mind watching Hockey. And when I was in Pittsburgh I went to a few Pens games. We got a student discount.
TG: Do you like football?
Me: No...
TG: Have you ever been to an Eagles game?
Me: No.
And I can see my stock plummeting as he realizes I will never be the girl sitting next to him cheering on the Eagles or passionately following Phillies games.
Why do I keep getting paired up with these sports fanatics? How can I get matched, with, like a hipster who isn't going to be horrified that I don't understand
a thing about football? How important is it that you share interests like sports with your significant other? Does it have to be a dealbreaker (like PDH)? Is there room for compromise (I'm thinking of my college boyfriend and I who would literally have two tvs next to each other in his living room, one playing baseball and one playing Trading Spaces)?
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