- We live roughly, one hour apart.
- He works nights and some weekends. I work weekdays during the day.
- It is a rare day when I can do anything spontaneously.
- And spontaneous urges to hang out are mostly squashed when we remember that for one of us to drive to the other's place, that person will spending two hours commuting in the car that night. And the non-commuting person will most likely be getting up for work the next day.
- My three most reliable babysitters (my mom, Isaac's dad, my brother) live about an hour away from me, but in different directions and not the same direction as PDH lives. Which means two hours of driving to hang out is often pre-empted by an hour each way to drop Isaac off at the babysitter's house. (Before someone suggests it-- I can't get a teenager from church to babysit, because I would have to wake Isaac up to take her home, which makes no sense. Also, I'm broke, so I need someone who is willing to do it for free).
* Related side-note: I've concluded that although my house is fab and convenient to work, it is close to ABSOLUTELY nothing else and it's really a problem.
- The stars only align that I will have a sitter and he will be off work at most a few times a month which makes me feel bad because I don't feel like it is enough time together and makes him feel guilty when other things he needs/wants to do crowd out potential "date times". And I know how that is. When I worked nights and weekends at Melmark it just felt like there were so many things that had to be missed because of work that sometimes I would feel like life was sort of passing me by.
Anyways...
Our situation is what it is and it seems we have sort of come to an impasse. We both care about and like each other but logistically dating seriously is not working out so well. We concluded that we are on sort of a dating hiatus for a while. Maybe in the spring/summer it will be easier to date.
Or not.
Who knows?
Of course I'm sad.
And the timing was sort of icky being Valentine's and all.
But I'm also sort of relieved.
So that's that.
Now we all know.
Feel free to comment about it here.
Feel free to NOT comment about in person.
(Don't worry, I haven't abandoned my emotional slogan for 2010; I can still have it all.)
5 comments:
that really does suck-the whole valentines day thing makes it suck extra. so sorry, but it sounds like you guys are being super mature. sigh. again, so sorry. how about a few cliches?
there are other fish in the sea
wash that man right outta your hair
when God closes a door he always opens a window.
if it is meant to be, it will happen.
AND my all time favorite:
if you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it is yours, if it doesnt, it never was.
BLAH!
That does suck but you have the best Valentine EVER in Isaac. :)
That's a sad story. That's hard that the logistics are getting in the way of a good relationship. Hopefully things can pick up over Spring break and the summer.
Do you know any of your neighbors? If I were you, I'd think about throwing a block party and seeing if anyone would want to set up a babysitting co-op. Whether or not I'd actually follow through with the thought would be the other question. :) Good luck. You're in a tough spot. Isaac's lucky to have such a good, dedicated mom and PDH has to respect and admire that.
that really sucks that the distances are so far (from him and any potential babysitters). XOXO (sorry typing w/ 1 hand. tore ligament in my wrist so had2make this comment short!) ;-)
Ditto to the comments above. It's rough, but perhaps there is a reason for all of it and hopefully something will work out one way or the other. That said, no matter your relationship, there are always challenges and life getting in the way. With both hubby and I traveling 4-5 days a week for work, we only get 2, maybe 3 days together each week. Then when there is weekend work at the client site, we won't see each other for two weeks. It sucks, and there is a lot of outside commentary from friends and family, but we make it work. Hang in there.
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